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“Wait I can’t believe she was able to do that. Not fair! She’s not even that great!” I looked blankly at my friend as those words came out of her mouth, not sure how to react. I love her, but why is she so insecure? She’s equally as amazing! It’s honestly just the Gemini in me that stops me from expressing negative thoughts. But it fails to stop me from having those thoughts altogether.
Jealousy is common, and quite honestly, a pain to deal with. I’m not going to take up steps talking about why we get jealous, but instead explore ways to get to a point of comfort where jealousy is mostly at bay.
Let’s start with connecting with our inner thoughts. How often do we do that? Truth is, not much. Introspection is a strong act. And while many of us are good at thinking, we hardly spend time diving into our own minds figuring out the whys and hows. It seems cliche when they talk about “knowing yourself well enough to be comfortable in your own skin.” But it’s true. The first step to being happy with yourself is to know your strengths, weaknesses, goals, happiness and other aspects. The minute we’re at peace with who we are, our perspectives relative to others significantly change.
Second! If you’re competitive, that’s a good thing. Keep the fire, shift the direction. Compare yourself with, wait for it, yourself. Let your new self out do your old self. Reflect on how far you’ve come and how much further you have to go. Heck, even express how your old self doesn’t deserve what you deserve now.
Last, but not the least, remind yourself that everyone has their highs and lows. That’s a fact. Some are better at hiding their lows than others. There’s a high chance that, similar to them having something you don’t, they need/want something you have. I’m no motivational coach, but trust me when I say this.
I honestly can go on for days talking about ways to stop or lessen jealousy. While subtle jealousy is harmless, it doesn’t take much to heighten the severity of it. And let’s face it, jealousy ends up only hurting the ones who experience it. So why go through that? Is it really worth it? Answer, my friend, is no.
